Depression and Denial


It’s like it’s a scar that must be hidden. Like some dirty secret.  An ugly sweater you keep in the back of the closet and only bring it out when that aunt comes to visit.  You hide it.  You deny it, even to yourself.

There are the days when you tell yourself “I’m ok”, as you look in the mirror.  You do what you have to do to to get through the next moment, the next hour, the next day.

But you’re not ok and you know it.  Your sleeping too much.  You’re avoiding any social interaction, isolating yourself.  Things that normally bring you joy, no longer do.  There is this dark cloud over everything in your life.

Why do people that are depressed deny it?  The answer is complicated.  Often, the person going through the depression is embarrassed.  They want to appear “normal”.  They don’t want people to think there is something wrong with them.  There is such a stigma attached to depression and other forms of mental illness that the person hides it from those around them and even from themselves.

Sometimes, they don’t know that they’re depressed.  They know something’s not right, but they don’t recognize it.  Depression is a sneaky thief.  It sneaks in under the radar and robs you of the joy in your life.

What can you do if you see that a loved one is depressed but they deny it?  Be there for them.  Listen, talk, check-in with them.  Take that extra minute, make that phone call, or send that text.  Get them out of their isolation.  Take them to lunch, pop in for a quick visit.

Since a depressed person will often isolate themselves, it is incredibly important to BE THERE, not just physically, but emotionally.  Be supportive, encouraging and most of all, be caring.  They won’t want your attention, at least not outwardly.  They will push you away and try to discourage you, telling you that they are fine that nothing is wrong.

Encourage that loved one to seek help.  If you are sure that they need help, don’t give up.  Don’t turn your back on them.  BE THERE for them.  You might just save a life.

The Suicide Prevention Hotline, available 24/7 is 1-800-273-8255

A terrific website on this can be found HERE.

There is a site specifically to help our veterans.  Find that site HERE.

Is talking to someone too much for you?  It was for me in the past at times.  There is a Crisis Text Line.  Text 741741 and you can text with a counselor.

Want to do an online chat?  There’s a site for that too.  Find it HERE.

You can even TWEET with a crisis counselor at @800273TALK on Twitter.

HERE is a link to many international phone #’s for Suicide Prevention.

This is a British number to help Children in crisis.  08001111

Copyright (C) 2019 Penny Wilson

 

 

 

When Pets Are Sick


I AM one of THOSE people that gush about my pet and bore you with the 200+ pics I have on my phone.  When did this happen to me?  I used to scoff at THOSE people!

Rocket has been my best friend, baby and companion for 6+ years.  I have NO idea how I managed without the love of this creature in my life before he came along.  HE is the reason I got out of bed during my darkest days.  He is always there, excited to see me and filled with love.

He got Very Sick a couple of days ago.  Sicker than I’ve ever seen him.  He was losing fluids at both ends and the danger of dehydration was a real threat.  I called 5 different vets offices to see if I could get someone to look at him, before I found someone with an opening.  I had to sit in the waiting room for a couple of hours until they could work me in.

Rocket and I are both back home.  Him, dozing on the couch next to me.  I’ve got 2 different medications and some special food for him.  The picky eater that he is actually ate some of the food and he’s drinking water.  Both are improvements.  So I’m encouraged.

I think he’s going to be ok.  But a time like this really does make you think about what a HUGE part of your life these Furbabies are.  He IS family.

Good News Friday Challenge!


This is a Challenge to each of you to come up with Just One POSITIVE news story that you’ve seen or heard recently.  If you don’t watch the news, then share an uplifting, positive quote or post!  I think that it’s high time that we all make the effort to see the Good and to see the Positive that happens in our lives every day!  There is so much negativity in our lives that we must Stop and LOOK for the good things!

If you would like to participate in this challenge, please leave your comments below with a link to the post or news story that you’ve found or done.  If you do not watch the news, share a positive quote you seen or heard or share a lovely photo!  YOU decide what is positive and Good News!  While you’re here, please share and check out other people’s posts.

Let’s all share something GOOD today!

I would like to make this a weekly challenge.  It will depend on the amount of interest there is, of course.  I can’t wait to see all of the wonderful, positive things you all come up with!  ❤  ❤  ❤

Copyright (C) 2019 Penny Wilson

I have a couple of Good News pieces today.  First, please be sure to check out this sweet, touching post over at A Teacher’s Reflections about a Mr. Rogers book and the man’s gentle wisdom.  You can find that post HERE.

The other little bit of Good News that I have today is to share with you the fact that today is my Birthday!! I seriously never thought that I would live this long!  Historically speaking, the women in my family do not live long lives.  I’m very healthy and take kinda-sorta good care of myself, so maybe I’ll be the exception.

Yesterday was a lovely day at work.  I love my job and the people that I work with.  From my work family I received several birthday cards and a Gorgeous bouquet of flowers.  See the picture above and the one below.

Today I am taking the day off from work and I’m going to spend the day with my sweet brother and sister-in-law.  There’s no better gift than spending time with those you love!

I hope you all have had a good week and can share some Good News stories with us.

Thank you for joining me on this journey!  ❤  Penny

Rocket’s Name(s)


My dear friend Jessica Bakkers did a very sweet post sometime back about her beloved dogs and all of the sweet nicknames she had for them.  This got me thinking about all of the different nicknames I have for my furkid, Rocket.  

First of all, his “official” name is Rocket Ralph Wilson.  He came by Rocket because when he gets excited, he gets the “zoomies” and he runs like hell, taking off like a rocket!  You would never know that this tiny dog could move so fast.  His middle name, Ralph, is the Last Name of his first Mommie before he became my furkid.  Of course, Wilson is because my last name is Wilson.

 

The nicknames.  Let’s start with the ones that have to do with “Rocket”.  There’s Rocket Man, Sprocket Rocket and Pocket Rocket.  Then there are the ones that are not as obvious.  Buddy, Baby, Baby Boo, Boo Boo and just Boo.  Then I really get carried away and will call him Babaloo or Babaloo Baby Boo, or Boogaloo and Boogaloo Baby Boo.  Crazy, right?  🙂

 

I will often call him by his “personality” names, like Sweet Boy and Sweet Baby.

Then there are the ones that refer to his personal appearance.  Big Boy, Little Boy, Little Man and lately, because of the white in his hair,  Little ‘Ole Man.

 

This is gonna sound weird.  When he lays on his stomach and puts his back feet behind him, it seems to create an extra bit of fat around his butt.  So at times, I call him Mr. Squishy Butt.

This little guy, at only 5 lbs, has made a HUGE difference in my life and has a HUGE place in my heart.  No matter what I call him, he is such a love in my life and it would be an empty place without him.

Copyright (C) 2018 Penny Wilson

 

Come next week — sudiecrouch


Please enjoy this positive, uplifting message from my new friend over at sudicrouch.  ❤

There is something peaceful about reflecting on the year as we ready ourselves for the next one. It’s a time, at least for me, to look back over what the last 12 months had brought into my life. The moments of joy and happiness. The obstacles that had been dealt with, whether I successfully bested […]

via Come next week — sudiecrouch

Winter’s Child



The walls are permeated 
with the laughter and tears 
once shared

I fill the room 
as best I can 
with today’s sunlight

I open the window
but the breeze does not 
sweep away the past

A life once lived 
clings tightly

My fingers 
touch a picture frame

Frozen in time 
you cradle a child

I can feel the love 
in the smile on your lips

Your fingers 
gently 
brush the hair from my face

Behind my eyelids 
I’m swept away

I am once again that small child
safe  
warm  
loved

You always 
smelled of lilacs

Today 
the memory of your face
is as vivid as yesterday

Other times 
it is but a faded shape in the mist

You are always with me 
a part of me

Copyright (C) 2018 Penny Wilson

*Today is not only the first day of winter but it also would 
have been my mother's birthday. This is something I wrote a 
couple of years ago. Although she's been gone for many years now, 
I still miss her terribly.

Thanksgiving


“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity… it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ―Melody Beattie

I had a harder time creating this post than I thought that I would.  I have had an incredible year and have a ton of things to be thankful for.  When there are so many that have so little, it’s not easy to write about what you have.  I think that the quote above encompasses much of what I’m feeling.

On this special day, I wish you the joy and love of your family.  I wish you a warm and peaceful place to lay your head tonight.  Most of all, I wish you the simple gift of gratitude.  It’s a gift that transforms lives.

Happy Thanksgiving, all.

Thank you for joining me on this journey! Penny ❤

 

 

 

Weekend With Rocket


Those of you that have followed my blog for any length of time, more than likely have seen a post about Rocket, pictured above.  Rocket is now 7 years old.  After Many exhausting hours of training, I am now trained to His Majesty’s preferences.

Rocket does not care what day of the week it is.  I have pretty much given up on the idea of ever sleeping late again.  And sleeping through the night?  Nope.  I couldn’t tell you the last time that happened!

But despite it all, I wouldn’t trade Rocket for anything.  Could YOU say No to this face?

Copyright (C) 2018 Penny Wilson