Yesterday’s Post-Where Was My Head?

Ok, let’s see if I can clear a few things up.  Yesterday’s post got some reactions that were unexpected.  So I think I need to clarify where my head was when I posted those quotes.

So much of our lives is a choice.  Sure there are things that we cannot control in our lives.  The death of a loved one, illness, like cancer, etc., Acts of God, like flood, tornado, etc.  What I was referring to was Our Choices in life and being responsible for those choices.

Often WE CHOOSE to stay in a situation that is not good for us.  You will see people that complain about their life, but it was their CHOICE to be in that situation.

Example: You loan money to a relative or friend that does not pay you back.  You KNOW they will not pay you back.  But you do it anyway.  That was your choice.  If you don’t like the outcome, don’t do it again!

Here’s another example:  You’re in poor health, but your doctor assures you that you can turn it around if you watch this thing or that thing in your diet.  Or he recommends that you lose 10 lbs.  It’s Your Choice to follow that doctor’s advise or not.

Another:  You can’t pay the rent, or buy that next car that you need. Why?  Because of the choices you made with your money.  You spent it, ran up your credit card limits or drank it away.  These were YOUR choices.  But you cry and say “woe is me” if you can’t make your next rent payment.  Your situation is life is terrible because of your choices.

In all three of these examples, WHO was responsible?

Sure we all have our childish phase.  But there comes a point when you have to CHOOSE to grow up.  Or not.

So many times I’ve seen where someone will blame everyone around them for the situation they’ve gotten themselves into.  The sooner you realize that the choices you make in life determine your present and future happiness, well-being, and other things that effect you and your loved ones, the better.

Often, you can choose to be happy.  You can choose to be healthy.  It’s a choice, and that choice leads to consequences that are YOUR responsibility.

*I don’t usually post such opinionated things. So thank you for indulging me. 

(C) Copyright 2019 Penny Wilson



Cranky, Crabby People

Ok, I’ve had a little backlash over a post I did on Internet Dating.  You can find it HERE.    Geeeze!  You just can’t say anything anymore without someone getting their panties in a bunch!  I KNOW that women are just as bad as men are out there.  I even state that in the first paragraph of the post.  If it looks like I took a female point of view on this, well damn!  I’M FEMALE!

I tried to make this post light-hearted and humorous.  If something like this gets you all shook up, you’ve got bigger problems than just finding a date!

If you leave me nasty comments, you are wasting your time because they will not be seen.  They will be swiftly deleted! 

Happy Wednesday My Friends!  🙂  Penny

I Didn’t Know I’d Live This Long

The older one gets, the more there is to look back on.  There’s more about life to contemplate.  Hitting 60 was a pretty big deal for me.  I really didn’t think I would live this long.  The women in my family do not have a history of longevity.

You know that old saying “If I knew that I would live this long I would have taken better care of myself”.  Well, it applies to me too.  I was a wild child.  I didn’t have a brain cell in my head until I hit at least 30.  I put myself into some dicey situations.

Sometimes the light’s all shinin’ on me,
Other times I can barely see.
Lately it occurs to me what a long, strange trip it’s been.”

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I Don’t Suck! Who Knew?!!

Writing has become a passion in my life. I didn’t take my writing seriously until a few years ago. They say the more you write, the better you get. So, with a deep breath and fingers crossed, I’ve submitted a few things out into the world.

Writing is an incredibly personal thing. Thoughts, ideas, hopes & wishes come directly from your heart, mind and soul and end up on a page. Part of us is in every key stroke.

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O – Opinion

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O – Opinion

Opinions.  Just like assholes, everyone’s got one.

Have you ever been in a disagreement with someone that simply cannot deal with the fact that you have a different opinion than they do?

Boy, I have.

When I was younger, I was SO stubborn.  It took me a while to grow up and realize that just because my point of view was different, didn’t make the other person “wrong”.  Some people never come to this realization.

I was in a relationship with someone that thought that if he argued long enough or yelled loud enough, that he could convince me that HIS opinion was the RIGHT opinion!  I got to the point where I just shut down.  I would not even debate the subject with him.

It’s OK to disagree with someone!  They are entitled to their opinion, just like you are entitled to yours!

My BFF, is a wonderful person and I love her very much.  But we do not always see eye to eye.  I’ve come to realize that the damage I might do to our friendship is not worth trying to make a point or disagreeing with her.

I will NOT discuss Politics or Religion with co-workers, or people I don’t really know in social settings.  The people I don’t really know; it won’t matter anyway.  With co-workers; I spend 8 hours a day with these people.  I am not going to jeopardize my relationships and ruin that!

Can you agree to disagree?  Or do you HAVE to be right?