Ok, let’s see if I can clear a few things up. Yesterday’s post got some reactions that were unexpected. So I think I need to clarify where my head was when I posted those quotes.
So much of our lives is a choice. Sure there are things that we cannot control in our lives. The death of a loved one, illness, like cancer, etc., Acts of God, like flood, tornado, etc. What I was referring to was Our Choices in life and being responsible for those choices.
Often WE CHOOSE to stay in a situation that is not good for us. You will see people that complain about their life, but it was their CHOICE to be in that situation.
Example: You loan money to a relative or friend that does not pay you back. You KNOW they will not pay you back. But you do it anyway. That was your choice. If you don’t like the outcome, don’t do it again!
Here’s another example: You’re in poor health, but your doctor assures you that you can turn it around if you watch this thing or that thing in your diet. Or he recommends that you lose 10 lbs. It’s Your Choice to follow that doctor’s advise or not.
Another: You can’t pay the rent, or buy that next car that you need. Why? Because of the choices you made with your money. You spent it, ran up your credit card limits or drank it away. These were YOUR choices. But you cry and say “woe is me” if you can’t make your next rent payment. Your situation is life is terrible because of your choices.
In all three of these examples, WHO was responsible?
Sure we all have our childish phase. But there comes a point when you have to CHOOSE to grow up. Or not.
So many times I’ve seen where someone will blame everyone around them for the situation they’ve gotten themselves into. The sooner you realize that the choices you make in life determine your present and future happiness, well-being, and other things that effect you and your loved ones, the better.
Often, you can choose to be happy. You can choose to be healthy. It’s a choice, and that choice leads to consequences that are YOUR responsibility.
*I don’t usually post such opinionated things. So thank you for indulging me.
(C) Copyright 2019 Penny Wilson
Yesterday’s post was pretty negative and I’m sorry about that. All is well my peeps, no worries.
Sometimes, the realization that WE choose our own destiny is a bit much to take. Everything in our life, we are responsible for and have either created it or allowed it to happen.
The day that I realized THAT, was quite profound for me. You have to remember that I didn’t have a brain cell in my head until I was in my 30’s. (none worth mentioning anyway) And the realization that I had the power to CHOOSE how I lived my life was like a slap in the face.
Crap! You mean I have to be an adult and accept responsibility for my own life? Well, shit!
Me! My choice! Not fate. Not some Divine Force, was pushing me along life’s path to a specific conclusion. I choose if I take the left fork or the right one.
I do believe in a Higher Power. But I believe that WE have the choice in this life to decide our path. Hopefully, whatever Higher Power there may be is there to guide us and give us strength. Our future is not preordained. At least I don’t believe it is.
My life is a good one. I have an abundance of Blessings that I give thanks for. My self-chosen path has brought me to this point in my life. What to do with tomorrow? We will see, my pretties. We will see. 🙂
The Daffy Duck cartoon? I just happen to have a soft spot for the hot head (I can relate) and wanted a reason to use this particular cartoon.
I’m an introvert. Big surprise, right? I need my down time and quiet time to recharge. I think that’s why I’m still single. I push men away if they demand too much from me. I’m alone a lot of the time and most of the time I don’t mind it at all. I’m not lonely except on rare occasions.
I think about dating again once in a while and then I think, “why bother?” I know how it will end. I’ll push him away, we’ll both be hurt and I’ll be alone again.
I’ve gotten so that I don’t know how to do anything else other than what I’m doing. I’ve looked back and I’ve always said that I didn’t want to be alone. But that’s exactly the path I’ve chosen.
Diet and exercise. *Shudder* Just the thought of it makes me cringe! I HATE to exercise. And dieting? Who the hell wants to eat a bunch of stuff they don’t like? Not me!
Despite all that…..
I’ve started a new diet and exercise program. It’s been 2 weeks and I’ve lost 8 lbs. so far. So I’m pretty jazzed. I want to lose another 12.
The diet really isn’t a diet. It’s just a change in the way I eat. For now, I’m having no bread, potatoes, coffee creamer (boo!), fried food, fast food and no processed food.
Eating healthy is a lot more work than not. I have to actually cook! Living by myself for the last 5 or 6 years, I cook for myself very little. It’s a lot easier and quicker to just grab something out of the freezer and nuke it.
But now, I have to plan what I will take in my lunch every day. I didn’t realize that what was left of my bagged salad had gone bad. I had planned on having salad with cooked chicken for lunch. So, instead, I’m having some cooked chicken and carrots. My afternoon snack will be a Tbsp. of creamy peanut butter. I also brought along a hard boiled egg in case I get hungry later.
I’ve given up soda and pretty much sugar too. I am drinking Crystal Light or equivalent and water, lots and lots of water. I was NEVER a water drinker, but I have found some of the flavored waters on the market that are quite good.
The other night, I had a terrible craving for cereal and milk! It’s one of my favorite late night snacks. Lucky Charms of course! (Don’t judge!) I didn’t have any milk in the house. So I finally got up and poured myself ½ cup of cereal and ate it dry.
It was very UNsatisfying!
Exercise. Oh Lord! I have never liked to exercise, just for the sake of exercising. So I started off walking a mile a day. I am now up to 3 miles a day. I’ve gotten so that I look forward to it! The weather here in Texas in the fall is just perfect for walking. The temps are in the low to mid 70’s right now. My goal is to reach 5 miles a day.
Now don’t laugh at me! I bought a Richard Simmons CD to exercise to once the weather turns bad, or if it gets dark before I get my walk in. I don’t walk alone at night here. And just for the record I LIKE Richard Simmons!! So there! 🙂
My new abode needs a LOT of work outside. The yard is in terrible shape. I live in the worst looking house in a very nice neighborhood, just because the yard has been so badly neglected. I spent most of the day on Sunday cleaning up the back yard. I wish I would have taken a BEFORE picture!
THAT’S the kind of exercise I like. Where you are doing something you enjoy and you’re getting a workout at the same time.
The inside of the house is starting to come together now too. I’ve got some pictures hung up on the walls and more boxes unpacked.
I give myself one day off a week from my new routine. But I still try not to go crazy, especially with eating. I can gain 3 lbs. just from a one day food binge!
I’ll keep you posted on my progress!