Internet Dating Sucks. I don’t care what site you try, they all suck. Internet dating has done nothing but make the process of dating even worse. You are now a commodity. You’re disposable, because the jerk that just “ghosted” you is scamming on 4 or 5 other women at the same time he’s been talking to you. Women are no better. They have picked up the same deplorable habits.
For those of you that are unaware, because of the internet, when someone is online looking for a prospective mate, they now have not just a few possibilities, but hundreds, possibly thousands! You may think this is a good thing, but it’s NOT.
Because of the vast number of possible partners out there, internet dating has turned into this very ugly thing. People will not make a commitment. I’m not talking about walking down the aisle. I’m talking about dating a person, or persons, to see where that relationship is going to go. They can’t do it.
There is too much Candy out there. People become addicted to the rush. They become addicted to the whole process. Meeting someone, the online pictures, texting, etc., etc.
I’ve been “Ghosted, Submarined, Catfished, Benched”, you name it and it’s probably happened.
For those that have no idea what I’m talking about, Ghosting is when you’ve seen someone, possibly more than once, or you’ve communicated with them several times and everything is going fine. Then, for no reason that you can figure out, they just vanish. Poof, they’re gone. They no longer answer your calls or texts and they no longer try to communicate with you. You’ve been Ghosted.
Catfished is when the person you are communicating with has a completely made up profile. Everything from the pictures to the occupation to the physical description, all made up. I guess this is some kind of sick fantasy that they are acting out. With you as the unsuspecting victim. Sometimes these made up profiles are scammers trying to get money from you.
Benching is when you’ve dated someone a few times, but they suddenly will no longer see you in person. They will continue to call or text you, but that’s it. What they are doing is playing out other options, seeing other people. But they want to keep you on the hook.
Submarining is when someone you’ve dated disappears, but then resurfaces weeks or even months later. They act like no time has passed and have no apology for the disappearance. This sometimes will mean that a secondary involvement that happened during or after being with you didn’t work out so they want to try it with you again.
There are other terrible dating trends too. Cuffing Season, Breadcrumbing, Exing, Textationship, Cusioning and more. I won’t go into all the explanations here. If you are really curious a quick search will give you the answers.
I’m a mature woman. I do not troll the bars. My social circle is quite small. I’m an introvert. Generally, I go to work and come home. Internet dating is not the answer.
I think that my time is better spent with my dog!
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