No Shame

I’ve heard people say things like “Oh, she’s just depressed”.  Just?

Most people, unless they’ve been there, have no idea what depression is really all about.  Most people use the word Sad.

It’s not really sad.  But yeah, sometimes it is.  It’a hollow, hopeless, emptiness, that consumes you.  Your world is black and bleak.  Nothing matters.

You could be expecting your first grandchild, or your son’s dream of attending Yale just came true, it doesn’t matter.  You put on a brave face, smile and act the part, but inside, you are barely functioning.

This is depression.

I’ve had times when all I wanted to do is sleep.  Because when you sleep, the world goes away.  You don’t have to deal with… anything.  Even if all that means is making dinner, or taking a shower, or driving to the store; it’s all just too much.

What you are feeling inside is an incredible darkness.  A hopelessness and helplessness.  You also feel worthless, defeated, unworthy and shameful.  So you hide.  You hide your symptoms.

This is why Depression is such a serious thing.  It can be a deadly thing.  When Everything is too much to deal with, what’s the alternative?

If you know someone that sleeps too much or isolates themselves, please reach out to them.  If they have stopped their normal pursuits, the things that used to make them happy, pay attention!  Just knowing that there is someone who understands can be a great comfort.

If you have these types of feelings, talk to someone.  Anyone.  Talk to your doctor or a friend or a counselor.  There is help out there.  There is No Shame in what you are feeling.

There is such a stigma attached to depression.  People have swept it under the rug or they dismiss it as something trivial.  It’s Not trivial folks!

Think about Robin Williams, Kurt Cobain, Mindy McCready, the list is a long one.

It’s real folks.  Don’t be afraid to start a conversation about it.

CC Licensed 9/1/17 Penny Wilson

About Penny Wilson Writes

Penny Wilson is a freelance writer who writes in several genres. She has written articles for WOW Women on Writing. Her poetry has been published in online journals, such as Ariel Chart, Spill Words Press and the Poppy Road Review. Penny is a member of the Austin Poetry Society. Her poetry has been featured in the publication America's Emerging Poets 2018 by Z Publishing and in the Poets Quarterly published by Prolific Press in Spring/2019. You can find more of her writings on her blog at and follow her on Twitter @pennywilson123.
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26 Responses to No Shame

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  2. Mr. Mel says:

    A very helpful post,, for 🌹those who suffer and those wanting to assist those who do suffer. Thank you for sharing.


  3. Nicolle says:

    Thanks for this informational post! Many years ago I had depression, and I still get it once in a while when I’m having PMS (or rather, its more severe form PMDD). The feeling is exactly as you described; during those hard days it felt as though I was a being sculpted from clay and my creator forgot to put in a heart, so I could feel nothing. All my usual hobbies weren’t fun, things that usually bring joy didn’t, things that can be effortlessly done took too much effort, and all the things that had to be done periodically – like having to eat because of hunger – was irritating. Basically, it sucks. 😅

    Luckily for me, all I need to do is pass the time quietly and it usually goes away in a day or two. 🙂


  4. My proverbial door is always open for those who want a chat… been there, know what it’s all about.


  5. I appreciate this precise definition of depression as I have been a support for a loved one dealing with major depression. You write about it in understandable terms. Thank you.

    I wish you the best as you continue to heal. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to help yourself fight this illness. That is admirable.


  6. Penny, I can’t thank you enough for posting this. Over the past few years I have felt exactly as you described. Nothing matters. Luckily for me, it’s not constant 24/7. There were some weeks when it was like that, but now it just hits me in waves. I have a psychologist and psychiatrist, but I feel so badly for people who don’t have that type of support group.


  7. Powerful post Penny. So truthful and heartfelt written. You have brought a touch of reality to a sickness, disease that isn’t easy to talk about much less admit or accept it. Thank you my dear friend.


  8. trentpmcd says:

    Great post. There is a stigma attached to mental illness in general. It’s invisible and not easy to understand if you aren’t affected. And depression is hard because we all get depressed, we just don’t all suffer from depression.


  9. This is scary. Wish wellness for those have it. Yet, seriously, I never understood the real reason behind it? Thank you Penny for the important information


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